| In Northern Kentucky pest control is an issue like | | | | does something that sting, the first question |
| anywhere else. Across the river, pest control is | | | | should always concern why the comment or |
| an issue like anywhere else. Pest control is the | | | | action caused a reaction. If a comment offends, |
| process of removing the vermin, animals and | | | | then either it is because they have hit upon a |
| insects that damage valuable property, or bring | | | | truth that needs to be addressed, or it is because |
| discomfort to our way of life. One of the primary | | | | there is more value placed on their opinion then |
| methods of controlling pests is by creating | | | | ones own. |
| barriers that keep them from gaining access to | | | | A person in complete integrity with their values |
| the environment or to our property. This is a | | | | will not hear criticism in a comment, but instead |
| lesson that can be easily carried over to our day | | | | hear a suggestion they can use to improve or a |
| to day life. Most people have friends and | | | | piece of advice that holds no value and may even |
| acquaintances that offer support and camaraderie. | | | | be seen as amusing. Nothing throws off a critic |
| Many people also interact with associates, family | | | | more then a serious accounting of their |
| or friends that bring discomfort and sometimes | | | | suggestion. An athlete intent on improving their |
| damage into their life. Learning to cope with these | | | | game takes the coaches comments as guidance |
| intrusions is not that different from control pests. | | | | and incentive. If the boss is hung up on the typos, |
| Termites can exist in a building causing damage | | | | a person with low self-esteem may feel |
| long before the presence is noticed. The same is | | | | inadequate while a person focused on the big |
| true of certain personalities and associates that | | | | picture may quickly turn the tables by |
| people encounter. A mother may continually | | | | acknowledging the typos as a simple problem |
| mention how well the neighbors son is doing, what | | | | easy to correct and asking the boss for |
| a great doctor he has become. The comment | | | | suggestions to improve the content and not the |
| may chew at the beams that support | | | | form. Suddenly the boss is redirected to deal with |
| self-esteem, the implied unspoken message being | | | | the important issues and drop the petty stuff. |
| your lack of obvious success. Maybe the boss is | | | | When a person operates out of their own |
| constantly finding the little typos in every well | | | | integrity and strives to do their best they develop |
| researched and incredibly brilliant report submitted. | | | | immunity to others petty behavior and mean |
| Unlike termites, you can't poison these people, but | | | | spirited comments. By focusing on the goals or |
| the foundation they attack can be reinforced. | | | | ones own values, the pesky intrusion of others |
| Most of the attacks on ones self-esteem can be | | | | loses its sting. Even if the neighbors boy is a |
| easily defended like a brilliant Akido move that | | | | successful Doctor you can always tell your |
| takes the energy of the attacker and transforms | | | | mother, "good for him, I hope he is as happy and |
| it into something harmless and may even throw | | | | content with his life as I am". |
| the attacker off balance. If someone says or | | | | |